Friday, January 11, 2013

Sometimes keeping the home means going to work

There is a battle going on in the hearts and minds of modern moms every where. People have strong opinions on both sides of the fence, and it seems like no matter what side you choose you will be judged for it.

As you may have figured out, the battle I'm talking about is the decision to be a stay at home mom or a working mom. If you choose the stay at home route you could be called lazy, or old fashioned. Some people will even show pity upon you.

Then if you choose the working mom route you could be called selfish, or a bad mom. And yes, there are still people who will show pity on you.

When you think about a traditional christian home you automatically assume the Mom will be home, taking care of the children and serving the husband. Even the bible tells us we should be "keepers at home."
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. -Titus 2:5
If a woman is financially able to keep the home while being home all the time she extraordinarily blessed.  I have been living that life for several years now, and it has been a great blessing for me and my family.

But there are times when "keeping the home," means literally we need to do something before we lose our home. It just isn't always possible in 2013 for a family to live off one income. If a woman is blessed with a husband who is strong enough to admit that he needs help to support the family financially she shouldn't hesitate in doing what needs to be done to help.

Let's look at our beloved proverbs 31 woman. She was not home all day. She worked with her hands (v 13), she bought property and planted a vineyard (v 16), she even made and sold linen (v 24). She did what needed to be done to care for her household. She did all this under the authority of her husband. He trusted in her (v 11).

I think it's time we let go of this guilt we feel about our decisions. As long as that decision is made with God and with your husband it is the right decision for your family. As for my family we've decided that I will be going to work part-time, and that is ok.

1 comment:

  1. Misty, I just found your blog and I am really enjoying your honesty and your desire to grow as a Christian. I will definitely pray for your husband as you seek to draw him closer to Christ by your love and witness. And I look forward to reading your older and new posts.
    If you are interested, I wrote a book about my journey to becoming a "sweetly broken" child of God. It's at After watching my mom go through several divorces, I was left with deep scars that affected my relationship with God and prevented it from being what it should be. And God has worked on me through the years - mostly through pain and trials - to learn to trust His love and goodness and to see Him as the Father that He really is. I hope you can find some encouragement in it as you grow in your relationship with the Lord. I'll be back soon to read more of your writing. Keep it up. Take care and God bless. - Heather K