I've been thinking about and working on this post for a while. It's a very personal subject for me. My life as a Christian is relatively new, and is predated by my relationship with my husband. A few months after we got married I started attending church. Not for myself, but because I wanted my son (1 1/2 at the time) to grow up with Christian values. It took a few years for me to catch on that I needed those values just as much as he did.
Before that I had been a horrible wife. I've written a little about my struggle with adultery here. And somehow my husband agreed to stay with me. God was working in our marriage before I even asked him to.
Now I am still growing as a Christian. But my husband hasn't quite joined me on this journey yet. I pray constantly for him to see God working in our lives. I know he will someday.
I also know that I'm not alone out there. Thousands of other Christian women are in the same boat. It's time we supported each and not be ashamed. It's time we stopped feeling guilty for marrying an un-Christian man, or for not being able to "turn him into a Christian." It's not our job to do, only God can do that. All we can do is try our very best to let God shine though us.
There's a verse in 1st Corinthians that has been a real comfort to me.
He is sanctified! My husband! It doesn't say "will be", or "might be someday if you try hard enough", it says "is." He is already set aside by God for a purpose. God already has a plan in place.
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. -1 Corinthians 7:14
This brings me to the best Christmas gift I got this year. It was something I've been wanting for a long long time, and something I only get once in a while. It didn't cost money, and it didn't come in a box.
My husband came to church with me! I was so excited, but trying not to show it because I don't want to put pressure on him, or push him away. He's a very quiet reserved man, and he doesn't like having too much attention paid to him. My church family is so great because they know this and did their best not to act too excited too. I've been asking for prayer requests about this for a long time. Just having him sit next to me was such a great feeling. For one Sunday I wasn't alone. And maybe, just maybe, some of it got into his head and maybe got him thinking about how good the Lord has been to us.