Friday, January 11, 2013

Sometimes keeping the home means going to work

There is a battle going on in the hearts and minds of modern moms every where. People have strong opinions on both sides of the fence, and it seems like no matter what side you choose you will be judged for it.

As you may have figured out, the battle I'm talking about is the decision to be a stay at home mom or a working mom. If you choose the stay at home route you could be called lazy, or old fashioned. Some people will even show pity upon you.

Then if you choose the working mom route you could be called selfish, or a bad mom. And yes, there are still people who will show pity on you.

When you think about a traditional christian home you automatically assume the Mom will be home, taking care of the children and serving the husband. Even the bible tells us we should be "keepers at home."
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. -Titus 2:5
If a woman is financially able to keep the home while being home all the time she extraordinarily blessed.  I have been living that life for several years now, and it has been a great blessing for me and my family.

But there are times when "keeping the home," means literally we need to do something before we lose our home. It just isn't always possible in 2013 for a family to live off one income. If a woman is blessed with a husband who is strong enough to admit that he needs help to support the family financially she shouldn't hesitate in doing what needs to be done to help.

Let's look at our beloved proverbs 31 woman. She was not home all day. She worked with her hands (v 13), she bought property and planted a vineyard (v 16), she even made and sold linen (v 24). She did what needed to be done to care for her household. She did all this under the authority of her husband. He trusted in her (v 11).

I think it's time we let go of this guilt we feel about our decisions. As long as that decision is made with God and with your husband it is the right decision for your family. As for my family we've decided that I will be going to work part-time, and that is ok.

Thursday, January 3, 2013

Mama's sick

I came here to write a blog post about being sick. But it seems my head is filled with other things, mostly snot. I'm ready to be healthy again.

Have you ever heard the expression "Mom's aren't allowed to get sick." That's usually true for me. Usually when I get a cold it's a walking cold and I just do what I need to do anyway. This cold broke that rule, it knocked me on my bottom.

The kids have been on their own all day while I've been asleep on the couch. Luckily the big one went to school. I let the little one have a lunchable for lunch. It's funny how guilty you feel giving your kid a lunchable, and the kid thinks it's the best lunch ever.

The worst part is I have a job interview tomorrow. So please pray for me.

And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him. -James 5:15

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Bedtime Prayer

In yesterday's post I resolved to start a prayer routine with my two boys. I wish I had done it sooner, my older boy is already 6. I don't think it's too late now.

When I was about his age we said our bedtime prayers every night. In my memory it was every night, it might not have been. The prayer we said is a very familiar one, and a little harsh for young children.

Now I lay me down to sleep
Pray the Lord my soul to keep
If I should die before I wake
Pray the Lord my soul to take

The last thing I want them to think is that they might not wake up in the morning. And it's really not the last thing I want to say to them before they go to sleep.

So I re-wrote this classic prayer. I wanted to add in asking for forgiveness, because even as children they sin. I also wanted to add praying for friends and family. Hopefully with time they will add their own prayer requests and really make this routine their own.

Monday, December 31, 2012

Happy New Year

I'm not really the new years resolution type. I believe that we can change any time we want, and we shouldn't wait for the beginning of a new year.

That said there are a few things I really want to do this year.

First is Eat only foods I enjoy!  

I know that seems like a silly diet plan. But hear me out please. I've been dieting off and on for about 20 years (that means since I was 10). It doesn't work. I can't deprive myself. So I'm going to make myself happy. I'm going to eat foods that I enjoy how they taste, and how they make me feel. Mostly healthy proteins and carbs that will give me more energy. 

Second is Be less selfish, put Scott's needs ahead of my own. 

I need to let go of my resentment, and trust Scott to be the husband and provider that God blessed me with. Because I know he will do it. 

Third is Pray more with my kids.

I've done pretty good at my own prayer routine. Now I need to get my kids on a prayer routine. I think it will be a great gift to them as they grow up. We'll start off with bedtime prayers. More on that tomorrow.

I hope everyone has a great new years eve, and a blessed 2013! Have fun and be safe!

Friday, December 28, 2012

Lord, Give me Patience...

Patience is eluding me today, and I don't have the solution. I think the goal of my boys today is to make the most noise and the biggest mess that they possibly can.

 Moments ago I found myself getting angry. I was doing my morning bible reading and the noise wouldn't stop. I was getting angry with my boys while holding my bible in my hands. So I decided to find a verse about a patient parent, I'm sure there is one somewhere, but all I came across today were verses about God's patience.

 He's been so patient with me. 30 years now he's been waiting for me. 15 years he waited for me to get saved, then another 12 years to wait for me to truly give my heart to him. He's patient on the days I don't pray and he loves me anyway. He's patient when I do pray but still don't listen. He's patient even though I am a horrible sinner who doesn't deserve his patience. Out of love he sent his son to die for us even though we never deserved it.

My boys have made some noise, they've broken some toys, they've even been outright disrespectful and disobedient. But they haven't done anything to not deserve my love. I will pray to Him today to give me just a tiny bit of that love and patience so I can pass it on to my boys. I can use this day as an opportunity to train them and help them grow with God's help.

Thursday, December 27, 2012

He is sanctified!

I've been thinking about and working on this post for a while. It's a very personal subject for me. My life as a Christian is relatively new, and is predated by my relationship with my husband. A few months after we got married I started attending church. Not for myself, but because I wanted my son (1 1/2 at the time) to grow up with Christian values. It took a few years for me to catch on that I needed those values just as much as he did.

Before that I had been a horrible wife. I've written a little about my struggle with adultery here. And somehow my husband agreed to stay with me. God was working in our marriage before I even asked him to.

Now I am still growing as a Christian. But my husband hasn't quite joined me on this journey yet. I pray constantly for him to see God working in our lives. I know he will someday.

I also know that I'm not alone out there. Thousands of other Christian women are in the same boat. It's time we supported each and not be ashamed. It's time we stopped feeling guilty for marrying an un-Christian man, or for not being able to "turn him into a Christian." It's not our job to do, only God can do that. All we can do is try our very best to let God shine though us.

There's a verse in 1st Corinthians that has been a real comfort to me.

For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. -1 Corinthians 7:14
He is sanctified! My husband! It doesn't say "will be", or "might be someday if you try hard enough", it says "is."  He is already set aside by God for a purpose. God already has a plan in place.

This brings me to the best Christmas gift I got this year. It was something I've been wanting for a long long time, and something I only get once in a while. It didn't cost money, and it didn't come in a box.

My husband came to church with me! I was so excited, but trying not to show it because I don't want to put pressure on him, or push him away. He's a very quiet reserved man, and he doesn't like having too much attention paid to him. My church family is so great because they know this and did their best not to act too excited too. I've been asking for prayer requests about this for a long time. Just having him sit next to me was such a great feeling. For one Sunday I wasn't alone. And maybe, just maybe, some of it got into his head and maybe got him thinking about how good the Lord has been to us.

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Prayer Time and Free Prayer List Printable

Prayer List Printable available here

I think most Christians agree that prayer is one of our most important duties. We are commanded over and over again in the bible to pray. We need to pray constantly.
Evening, and morning, and at noon, will I pray, and cry out loud: and he shall hear my voice. Psalm 55:17
I want to pray, and I want to pray for everyone I care about: for my church family and my real family and even some people I've never met who do a great ministry. But I felt like I was just wondering through my prayer time. So I decided to get organized. I want to share with you what I did.

First I created a list of everyone I want to pray for. Of course I pray for my husband and my children daily. Weekly I want to pray for my immediate family (mom, siblings etc...), certain values that I'm working on (wifely submission, teaching my children, etc...), ministries I'm involved in at church, our armed forces and nation's leaders, and our church leaders including the pastor and his wife.  Then my extended family and church family go into the monthly category. Most days there are 1 or 2 families that I pray for.

One of the things I really enjoy is making excel files (I know weird). It's available here if you want to use it. . You can either type or write in who you want to remember to pray for. Also if you fold it in half on the line between the monthly and weekly prayer lists it's just the right size for a bookmark.

Of course there are other prayer requests at church, and sometimes there are times when God leads my heart to pray for someone or something else. But with this list I know that I am covering everyone I love with prayer.
And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him. -James 5:15
Please share with me your prayer routine!